44th WISDOM OF WISDOM - ALHIKAM IBNU ATHOILLAH

 The 44th Syarah of Wisdom – Syarah al-Hikam

Bismillaahirrahmaanirrahiim

Assalamualaikum wr. wb   

      رُبّما كنتَ مُسيأً, فأراك الإحسان منك صُحبتكَ إلى من هو أسوءُ حالاً منكَ

    "Often you think you are bad, so the way you take is to make friends with people who are worse off than you."

This wisdom is a continuation of Wisdom 43 . The wisdom of tonight is just a connector and perfection. Let's get straight to the point, okay? The wisdom of Ibn Athaillah this time contains a high moral message about "friendship".

For example, you are a devout Muslim who follows a routine of worship. You are istikamah and always on time for congregational prayers at the mosque. You also fulfill all religious recommendations such as fasting during the month of Ramadan, tithing and making the pilgrimage to the Baitullah perfectly.

Unfortunately, you have a negative downside. Among them, it turns out that you are the type of person who loves the world, loves wealth and loves office. A lot of your time is wasted because it is often used for worldly things. Your eyes are dazzled by the glitter of the world. On the other hand you also like to make friends with people who are not good. Drunks, drug addicts, street thugs and thugs are your core community. You feel proud to join them, as they are delighted to have you in their community.

This kind of situation often happens around us right. For urban people, things like this have become a kind of lifestyle. Well, from the flow of the life you lived earlier it was recorded that you are a good person. Compared to your friends, only you are the cleanest.   You are the only person walking straight towards Allah. Your personality at that time was perfect and without the slightest flaw.

In knitting friendships, you should be selective. Selectively position oneself and selectively choose the personality of friends. The main purpose of friendship/friendship is to create a two-way motivation that is mutually beneficial to both parties, namely that you can take good lessons from them, and they can also get the goodness from your personality.

If your life matches the above parable, then know that you are in the wrong position. Befriending people with worse personalities will make you blind. Blind eyes and blind at the same time.

It is said to be blind because in your eyesight, you alone are the best at that time. You are the holiest and the cleanest. It is said to be heart blind because your heart is closed to correcting your own defects. Your heart is only busy judging the goodness of yourself.

If this kind of situation is left, don't expect your personality to improve. Your way of thinking will also be damaged. You will be in the most difficult situation, because your mind has been trapped by your own lust. Lust can beat common sense. So be careful with your lust. Never let your lust control you. Don't be fooled.

Then how about your friendship with people who have negative traits? If you are already logged in, then what is the solution??? Al-Buthi said, this kind of thing has entered the realm of da'wah. So only certain people can enter there. Not everyone.

In the Islamic da'wah method, there is absolutely no suggestion that you should follow their negative traditions. You should be yourself. The rules in Islamic da'wah are, you are only obliged to advise, invite discussion and guide them. Preaching for people who are morally and psychologically damaged doesn't have to be an integral part of their lives.

Worries arise when you behave like your broken friends. If your friend is a thief, are you stealing too? If your close friends are drug addicts, then will you also become addicts like them? The answer, of course not.

Da'wah has special rules, as well as negative life also has its own way. The two cannot be mixed. So there is no reason for us to follow the negative flow of friends, because everything already has standard rules.

When you see your friend committing a sin, then you must act, reprimand, or at least you must not deny it in your heart. When you see your friend smacking an innocent person in the middle of the road, then you have to help that person, as recommended by the Shari'a.

If it turns out that your friend is still unmoved and does not want to repent of his depraved deeds, the way out, is still by "advising". Because good advice is the most powerful way, apart from praying for them. Advise them well, because that is the advice of Islam.

One piece of advice doesn't work, you have to advise twice. 3 times also doesn't work, so it has to be 4 times. And so on. Preaching cannot die. The spirit of da'wah must remain alive, because until the Day of Judgment there will never be an end to the people who do bad and evil.

The means used must also be varied: they can be spoken, written or other media. The modern ones sometimes use FB and Twitter. The point is, be smart in choosing friends / companions, because they are the ones who will accompany you in this world until the hereafter. What a beautiful friendship. The negative side of friends should also not be used as a cover for your own goodness. Do not use their negative nature as an example.

Never give up reminding others, especially those close to us. Family, relatives and neighbors are loved ones.

Wassalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh